by rkwsuperstar Sun May 08, 2016 1:42 pm
James.k.Polk wrote: rkwsuperstar wrote: NebulaJack wrote:
Hell, she wouldn't like whomever I brought around, so I don't know why she's so concerned. Of the men I have dated, she hasn't liked one of them.
Maybe she disliked them due to an assumption that they were all liars helping you pretend to be straight.
I think this lesbian thing is recent. While I was never popular with the boys, I did date in my 20s and early 30s. But I haven't dated in years-well, I had one date about 4 years ago? And it was ridiculous. And I didn't share with my mom. So, I think the lack of any activity of any kind in several years has led to this assumption. I think as parents (and aunt, any family, really) they don't want to recognize or can't recognize that their family member is just not attractive in any way to the opposite sex (beyond offers for sex at 2 a.m., which doesn't count) and instead choose to believe that the reason I don't date is that I'm in the closet and am afraid to come out.
To be fair, I've seen it happen where a woman gets into her late 40's or so and suddenly "switches teams" so to speak, and takes up with women instead of men. I have probably know men that did the same thing.
In my un-expert estimation, some people experience hormone changes that re-direct their sexuality.
Regardless, it's kind of sad that your mom has misguided ideas about your personal affairs and that you're kind of stuck in the house with her for a while. I'm assuming she means well and wants you to be happy. she just can't imagine a reality where you're not attracted to the good old boys in small-town Texas.[/quote]
My mom is from California, I don't think she cares about TX boys v. other boys. And yes, one of my closest friends recently came out. She was on her 2nd husband, just had her 2nd kid, and left her husband for a woman she met at work and says she's the happiest she's ever been. She was never unhappy straight, so I don't know how it all works-maybe she met this lady and it awakened something in her. But I know it can happen. And, like I said, it doesn't bother me if she thinks it, it bothers me that she apparently thinks I'm lying and, if I were gay, that she's trying to force me to admit something that I wasn't ready to.
Yea, it's better now that I can take care of myself more so she's back at work all day. I love her and I appreciate that she's taking care of me, but as an independent person used to being alone, it's hard being around 2 people almost 24 hours a day. For 8 weeks and counting.