James.k.Polk wrote:
Since her stroke, she's been living in a nursing home and it seems she contracted a UTI that *might* have developed into sepsis before the caregivers at the nursing home noticed. She was dehydrated and they pushed a lot of fluids into her. My older sister has a "take it as it comes" attitude, kind of like me, I guess.
I'm a confirmed stoic. When my father died it was in similar circumstances. I didn't get super-emotional about it. My older brother broke down and cried at the funeral. I did not. I honestly wonder if I will feel the loss and want to cry when she goes, or if it will hit me days, weeks or even years later.
I'm a terrible person who worries that I won't cry when my mother dies.
I'm sorry to hear that. That has to be tough on you. I don't think it makes you terrible if you can't cry. I think it's probably has something to do with when we were raised. The "Men don't cry" "rub some dirt on it" attitude of the 70's and 80's was pretty much the norm when we were kids. I know I have a hard time showing emotion when there is a death in the family. My ex commented on it at my sisters funeral. She didn't understand why I wasn't crying.
I found out yesterday my step father has throat cancer. He's upbeat and confident he can beat it. I hope that's the case. I'm not sure what my mother would do without him. She also had a stoke a few years back. She can get around, but is limited. My step dad does all the cooking, driving and day to day stuff.